On the general subject of sexism, here's Christina Hoff Summers laying out a clear picture of what's going on in western society: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRsY...fu7Xmd&index=5
On the subject of "Power + Privilege = Discrimination", here's Sargon of Akkad addressing the subject while talking about Bahar Mustafa: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=US1ipNlsGYY
. In essence, trying to force people to adopt the sociological definitions for "Racism" and "Sexism" instead of their common dictionary definitions is foolish. If a black man hates a white man because of the color of his skin, then he is a racist. Period.
Now, to get back to things that are actually relevant to the gender gap on this forum, let's talk about the fact that men and women make different choices when given similar options. Here's Christina Hoff Summers again, talking about gender gaps between countries: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XGI2...fu7Xmd&index=4
The pertinent part is towards the end of that video, but basically as freedom and wealth increase, men and women make increasingly different life choices. Hobbies are definitely an extension of that idea. If women do not prefer TTRPGs, that is not necessarily a problem. Yes, let's try to remove slurs, mistreatment, and so on from our community. Let's try to be respectful of each other. Let's not expect this to result in any particular outcome.
On the subject of the "poisoned M&Ms" metaphor, it is a fundamentally broken metaphor. Men, not women, are actually in more danger from random strangers. Women are almost as likely to be rapists, as pointed out by Gallus. If one wants to apply the metaphor of "poisoned M&Ms" to a group, one must apply it to the whole of the human race - every person that you meet might be a thug, a rapist, a con artist, or a murderer. There is no other food available, so one either eats from the bowl of poisoned M&Ms or you starve. We must take each M&M, each person, on their own individual merits and making broad generalizations on superficial characteristics is morally wrong.