As others have said, whether two intimacies conflict is contextual; as circumstances change, two intimacies that don’t conflict at one point might begin to conflict later. So you pretty much need to give them a Major Intimacy that doesn’t seem to conflict with the Defining Intimacy you want to erode, and then arrange circumstances such that they come into conflict. You can then attempt to use the Major Intimacy to erode the Defining.
This is pretty difficult!
Originally posted by Krata Lightblade
Who says those two Intimacies are even conflicting?
He has a Defining Intimacy towards his House, NOT the traitorous members of it... and he doesn't want to see his House end up the next Iselsi!
I’d say that, while it’s normally up to a player to define what his character’s intimacies mean, if another character wanted to use this situation in order to pit the first character’s pro-house intimacy against his pro-Realm intimacy or vice verse, it would not be okay for the first player to argue “Ah, but the intimacy is to my House, not traitorous members within it, therefore there’s no conflict.”
That said, “There’s no conflict” would be a good justification for if this attempt at social influence failed.
Originally posted by Prince of the Night
any charms that explicitly helps with attacking defining intimacys?
Not really, no.